One of the greatest gifts you can give to a man - by the Relationship Doctor

"I see it happen all the time. A woman spends years trying to find the man of her dreams, and when she finally finds him, and she's finally having what she thinks is a great relationship with him - bam! It happens.

"For some inexplicable reason, he chickens out and is reluctant to take the relationship to the next level - and may even want out altogether.

"Let me tell you in a nutshell what I think is the No. 1 mistake women unconsciously make that scare a man away from them.

"They make a man feel that it is his responsibility to make her happy.

"When a man thinks your happiness rests on his shoulders, he often feels a sense of panic. It creates too much pressure for him to deliver, and he may not have a clue how to make you happy, especially if he hasn't even figured out how to make himself happy.

"This is further compounded by the fact that women have complex emotional needs that men cannot understand. Therefore, a man may worry that he may not be able to fulfill her needs, no matter how
hard he tries.

"You may not be aware that you're putting the responsibility for your happiness on him, but you probably insinuate it in the things you do or say. One thing you need to remember is that you must  take responsibility for your own happiness and your own sense of self-worth because a man cannot do that for you.

"For instance, a man can tell you everyday that you're beautiful, but deep down, if you don't believe you're beautiful, he couldn't possibly convince you otherwise. Likewise, if you tend to have a negative view of life, and feel victimized by things people say or do (including him), how could he possibly make you happy when you're projecting your dim view of the world on him and everything else?

"How you feel on the inside is just as important - if not more important - than what you say or do.

"One of the greatest gifts you could give a man is to take the pressure off him by taking the responsibility for your own happiness.

"Face it. What good is finding the man of your dreams if you're going to scare him away with your emotional neediness?

"This belief will manifest not only in how you think, but how you dress and how you carry yourself - and will go a long way in attracting your dream man and keeping him devoted to you.